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What Is It Like To Be A Mom?

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I get this question more often than you would think. My answer is usually this: I don’t feel like a mom. I just feel like someone handed me a baby and said, “Make it stop crying.”

     Homegirl is both a bundle of joy and a ball of tears. I feel like every day is a constant guessing game of trying to figure out what she needs. Everyone always says babies are helpless. Everyone is wrong. Parents are helpless. We have no idea what we are doing.

     While I was pregnant I had a Netflix marathon and binged on the tv series House MD. One quote about parenthood stuck out to me: “When I see people with their kids, it's so natural. It's like they have an instruction book imprinted on their genes. Maybe I just didn't get a copy.” This resonated with me more than I can say.

     But the most comforting piece of advice I’ve received about being a new mom was from a great friend with two amazing children. “You have known your baby longer than anyone else. So you are the expert.” While I still don’t feel adequate enough to care for a babychild, she has a point.

     No one knows this baby better than I do. Heck, I carried her for nine months, endured hours of painful labor, and have been by her side all her (short) life. So I guess I am the expert.

     But unlike most moms I’ve come in contact with, my life didn’t stop when I had a baby. In fact, it picked up speed and is now on the verge of a crash landing. Along with being a mom, I am a full-time student, wife, intern, writer, runner, social media manager, and podcast editor. While I’m drowning in responsibilities and deadlines, I couldn’t be happier.

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     Before Babygirl came into play, I was floating in a sea of unrealized dreams and sunken potential. When I started college I was like the Titanic: lots of expectations but I hit an iceberg along the way. Lost in my own unsure sense of self, Scarlett was the lifeboat that pulled me out of the water.

     When I found out that we were having a girl, I wanted more than anything to raise a confident, competent, don’t-need-no-man sophisticated lady. As my pregnancy progressed, I thought more and more about how I could raise her this way. But I realized, I couldn’t expect her to be anything more than I was. So. I changed my life drastically.

     No more waiting around for dreams to manifest themselves. No more excuses for myself. Homegirl was counting on someone to pave the path for her. And I’ll be damned if it’s not lined with diamonds and my own sweat and tears.

     If I want to tell her she can be anything she wants then I need to show her she can. If I want her to develop and use her talents to benefit herself and those around her you better believe I'll be doing the same.

     So this isn’t easy: my life is go go go around the clock and my house is a mess and I’m still trying to lose the baby weight but I'm happy. I have a sense of who I am and where I am going. What is it like to be a mom? It means being the best person you can be for your babygirl.

If you want to keep up with all the baby cuteness of Scarlett, follow her on Instagram!

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In your experience, what does it mean to be a mom? How has becoming a parent changed your life? I'd love to hear your experiences in the comments below!

Read our story of announcing our pregnancy.

Read my story of how I met my husband.

 

Here's a video about the day Scarlett was born. It's probably the cutest thing you'll see all day.

 

Learning to Love Your Body

We’ve all been there: wishing that we looked like a celebrity in a magazine or that girl we saw at the gym. We all get that icky, guilty feeling when we’re shopping for new clothes and it seems like there is nothing in the entire mall that fits! It’s frustrating and it’s an emotion that leaves you feeling empty. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Throughout my years of weight loss and weight gain, body loving and body hating, I’ve discovered four major keys to being truly and honestly comfortable in my skin. When I start having negative thoughts about my body, I ask myself these questions:

Am I Eating The Right Foods?

Now, this doesn’t mean going on a crazy, absurd diet. It just means that of all the calories I eat in a day, are the majority of them full of vitamins and nutrients? A treat is okay every now and then, but when you eat well you feel well. And it’s definitely easier to love body when you feel well.

Am I Exercising?

“Exercise” is a tough word for some people to swallow, but it doesn’t have to include going for a jog or lifting weights. Getting your body to move and grow stronger should be the main goal of every workout. Don’t like running? Try a Zumba class. Not the biggest fan of cycling? Yoga can make you sweat just as much. The key is to get up and get moving. Exercising and pushing your limits helps you to realize and appreciate all the amazing things your body can do.

Am I Getting Enough Sleep?

I am a busy, on-the-go, can’t-say-no, nonstop, college student with a handful of jobs and a husband and a baby and a lot of bills. My days are packed from the second my alarm goes off to the moment my head hits the pillow. But my body and my mind need the irreplaceable rest that comes with a good night’s sleep. When I neglect the sleep that I need, I’m tired and sluggish. I get frustrated with my body for not being able to do more for me. However, in order to get the most out of my body it needs to rest. It’s easy to love and care for my body when I feel awake and refreshed.

Am I Dressing For My Body Type?

Try as I may I will never be a size zero - and there’s nothing wrong that! There is also nothing wrong with those of you who are a size zero. That being said, I need to find clothing cuts, styles and fabrics that best fit my body. There is a difference between cute clothes and flattering clothes. Lots of trends are cute, but they don’t flatter my body type. Sticking to clothes that flatter your body type, whatever it may be, will help you feel more comfortable in your own skin.

 

In the end, when I am taking care of my body, I love and appreciate it more - even if I didn’t reach my ideal weight or if I’m not as strong as I’d like to be. There is so much my body can do and I’m so thankful for the one I was blessed with. Taking care of my body helps me feel my best and let’s me be my best.

 

How have you overcome your negative body image? I would love to hear your triumphs in the comments below!

 

Have you read my post about loving your body while pregnant?

7 Tips For A Better Resume

One of my favorite jobs in college was working at the University Career Services. It was my job to help students get hired. I trained with career specialists and then sat down with students one-on-one to critique and guide their resumes. After working with hundreds of resumes, I have compiled this list of a few good tricks that make every resume job-worthy.

1: At A Glance.

What does your resume look like at a glance? Odds are employers are handed a massive stack of resumes and if yours doesn’t stand out or it looks too complicated, they’ll toss it. It’s important that the employer’s first impression of you be a clean, organized, and well-balanced resume.

2: One Page.

Limit your resume to one page, especially if you’re an undergrad. I’ve known employers who immediately toss two-page resumes before even reading them. Avoid them like the plague. More importantly, sticking to this guideline will help you to keep your descriptions concise and to the point.

3: Easy to Navigate.

Don’t make employers work to find the information they need. Make sure each section of your resume is clearly labeled and smartly organized. For example, I always state my education at the top of my resume because education is usually the first qualification for a job.

4: Nothing From High School

Unless you’re a freshman in college (or a high school student), nobody cares about your life as a minor. Don’t list anything about high school on your resume, no matter how impressive you think it is. If you are a Freshman in college, you especially need to work hard to get other experiences that you can put on your resume. Join a club, get a part time job, volunteer. Anything for experience that’s not from high school. My only exception to this rule is if you are currently doing something you started in high school, like volunteering for the same organization (or within the same field) or still writing for your blog. This can show that you are passionate about these things because you’ve been doing them for a long time. Other than that, try your best to get experience outside of your high school days.

5: Related vs. Additional Experience

Up until recently, this is how I usually divided up my resume (I have finally gained enough Related Experience in my field that I no longer have room for Additional Experience). Related Experience is anything (job, club, volunteering, awards) that shows I have the skills for and will succeed at a specific job I’m applying for. Additional Experience is where I put those odd jobs I got just to pay the bills. These jobs are still important because they show that you’re humble enough to clean restrooms and that you’re not afraid of work. I also use these jobs to show I have the typical characteristics every job posting asks for: “Good customer service, works well as a team member, leadership experience, detail oriented, etc.”

6: Key Words From The Job Posting

Once I have formatted my resume, I compare it side-by-side to the job posting. I then pluck words from the job posting and put them in my resume (only if they truly apply to my resume. Never lie on a resume). This is how you get past resume filters and HR people. Specific words from the job posting will be used in filters or looked for by an HR person screening resumes. Using the company’s lingo on your resume will get you one step closer to an interview.

7: Print Your Resume In Black and White

This is extremely important, especially if you are daring enough to have a resume design that isn’t traditional. While I tend to use black, dark blue or dark red colors on my resume, I understand that some creative jobs require more creative resume designs. If you fall under this category, print your resume out in black and white ink before you submit it. There is a high chance that if you apply online or through email, your resume will be printed out in black and white ink and then looked at by the employer. You want your resume to still be legible even if it is not in color. Remember, the function of your resume always needs to out way the design of your resume.

My last piece of advice is to think of your resume as a canvas, not a buffet. When you’re at a buffet, you usually throw anything on your plate just to fill it up. People tend to do this with resumes as well. Don’t just put anything on your resume to fill up space. Instead, look at your resume as a canvas, where each stroke of the paintbrush is deliberate. Everything about your resume needs to be deliberate and it needs to contribute to the job you are applying for. Remember, the purpose of a resume is to get an interview, not the job. You don’t have to put your entire life story on your resume. You just want to peak the employer’s interest and prove that you have the skills to be successful in that job. The interview is where you convince them to hire you.

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Going to college soon? Read my advice about what every future college student needs to know!

This is my most recent resume. It is more on the nontraditional side but it works for my field. Remember to always make sure that the function of your resume outweighs the design.
This is my most recent resume (click on it to enlarge). It is more on the nontraditional side but it works for my field. Remember to always make sure that the function of your resume outweighs the design.